In every relationship, there are ups and downs, moments of joy but also of arguments.
A Reddit user recently shared his personal challenges within his marriage due to his wife’s poor hygiene habits.
Although he admits to his own shortcomings and the difficulties they face, his greatest concern is his wife’s well-being and the impact all of this has on their intimacy. Keep reading to know the full story…
The man said about his current relationship situation.
“My wife and I have marital problems, there is no doubt about that. Sometimes I’m an as**0**, sometimes she’s a b***h. But most of the time, we get along well and everything is okay. We found out she was pregnant when we were way too young, not in a long relationship, and not married. We stayed together and did our best to raise our son the way we thought was ‘right,’ even though it didn’t always go as we wanted,” explained the man.
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He revealed that while they are “far beyond the puppy love stage,” he now has a different kind of love and respect for his wife, whom he refers to as his “best friend.”
Depression and poor care
Both have battled depression. And for that reason, they gained several pounds and struggled with their self-confidence. The man wrote that despite this, he has taken small steps to slowly regain his confidence and lead a healthier lifestyle.
“My wife is not like me. I feel like she’s given up,” the man wrote. “She has had health insurance throughout our marriage but almost never goes to the doctor, even if she thinks something is wrong (like polycystic fibrosis).”
He added that his wife hasn’t seen a dentist since their marriage and has poor oral hygiene. “Her teeth are yellow and there is often a nasty white buildup around her gums on her bottom teeth,” he said.
In his post, the man wrote that his wife makes unhealthy eating choices and has a terrible body odor that never seems to go away. “She hardly ever dresses up and never wears makeup. Her hair is usually in a ponytail and lays flat on her head. This does not help her appearance at all, because it makes her face look even fatter,” he wrote.
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As a result, the man refused to sleep next to his wife because of her habits. He wrote that he has been honest with his wife about her hygiene and unhealthy lifestyle, but she takes it personally and refuses to change.
Reddit Reactions
Many Redditors offered their advice to the man in the comments section, with one person writing, “All these issues are rooted in her depression. Happy, mentally stable people do not neglect hygiene and do not make themselves physically unattractive. It’s a self-fulfilling cycle. She’s depressed, so she doesn’t take care of herself. She receives negative reactions to her physical appearance, and her husband rejects her, making her even more depressed. Rinse, repeat.”
Another added, “What if, for example, you paid for a spa day for her (or for both of you)? Get skin treatments, pedicures, maybe even a haircut or whatever, to make body care a luxurious treat. Remind her that it can feel good to take care of your body.”
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